New life

Nothing hurts as much as betrayal, permanent lies and being reduced to the role of victim. The person who was absolutely most important to you has just become your enemy No. 1. It is normal that after a divorce you may have trust issues – even with yourself! You didn’t see the red flags last time, what if you don’t see them again? Well, life cannot be lived alone and feeling anxious. We are made to be in a group, and building a deep relationship with a new partner/spouse, friends and loved ones requires…trust! How can this be done? You didn’t see the red flags last time, what if you don’t see them again? Well, life cannot be lived alone and feeling anxious. We are made to be in a group, and building a deep relationship with a new partner/spouse, friends and loved ones requires… trust! How can this be done?

Give yourself time. Learning how to trust again is a process.

Find support. Share your feelings with a CDC® divorce coach, therapist or support group.

Look at your past. Look back and ask yourself if you have accidentally doubted yourself.

Start with small steps. Don’t share too much information at the very beginning of a new relationship.

Be attentive. Listen to your intuition and what your body is telling you.

Pay attention to your comfort zone. Beware of people who try to push your boundaries.

Assume the best intentions. At the same time, don’t hesitate to speak up and explain if you feel someone is hurting your feelings.

Be vigilant. Has the person kept their word?

Expect reciprocity. Does this person also trust you?

Learning how to trust again is a process, sometimes consisting of “two steps forward and one step back”. Be understanding to yourself, take care of yourself, your emotions. Eventually the day will come when the sun will shine again.